Psychology Test - The Marriage Quiz

For each question below, choose the response that best describes your feelings.

PART I
As newlyweds…

1. … we were constantly touching, kissing, pledging our love or doing sweet things for one another.
- Strongly disagree (1 point)
- Disagree (2 points)
- Agree (3 points)
- Strongly agree (4 points)

2. … how often did we express criticism, anger, annoyance, impatience or dissatisfaction to one another?
- Often (1 point)
- Sometimes (2 points)
- Rarely (3 points)
- Almost never (4points)

3. … my partner and I felt we belonged together; we were extremely close and deeply in love
- Disagree (1 point)
- Mildly agree (2 points)
- Agree (3 points)
- Strongly agree (4 points)

4. … I think one or both of us was worried that we were not right for each other
- Strongly agree (1 point)
- Agree (2 points)
- Disagree (3 points)
- Strongly disagree (4 points)


PART II
BY OUR SECOND ANNIVERSARY…

1. … we were disappointed that we touched, kissed, pledge our love or did sweet things for one another less often than we had as newlyweds
- Strongly disagree (1 point)
- Disagree (2 points)
- Agree (3 points)
- Strongly agree (4 points)

2. … we expressed more criticism, anger, annoyance, impatience or dissatisfaction.
- Strongly disagree (1 point)
- Disagree (2 points)
- Agree (3 points)
- Strongly agree (4 points)

3. … we felt much less closeness
- Strongly disagree (1 point)
- Disagree (2 points)
- Agree (3 points)
- Strongly agree (4 points)

4. … I felt much more confused or worried about the relationship
- Strongly disagree (1 point)
- Disagree (2 points)
- Agree (3 points)
- Strongly agree (4 points)


YOUR SCORES

Add up your points from PART I.
4 – 8 points = Group A
9 – 16 points = Group B

Now add your points from PART II.
4 – 8 points = Group C
9 – 16 points = Group D

YOUR RESULTS
Find the section below that corresponds to your results and read what your early years together can tell you about your marriage now.

A + C = Mixed Blessings
Your marriage is filled with more conflict and ambivalence than the ideal, but it has lost only a modicum of good feeling. It seems to coast along, showing few signs that it will become deeply distressed.
Food for thought: Many people in such relationships are content, finding their marriage a reassuringly stable foundation that allows them to devote attention to career, children or other pursuits. Other are dissatisfied but think the rewards outweigh the drawbacks. Some people may eventually leave in search of “a fine romance”.

B + C = A Fine Romance
You have a loving and harmonious marriage. It may have lost a touch of its initial glow as the mundane realities of marriage have demanded more time. But you feel secure. The relationship’s gifts you unwrapped as newlyweds continue to delight.
Food for thought: You have the makings of a happy, stable, long term marriage. Your success over the first two years suggests that you and your partner operate together like a thermostat; when it’s chilly, you eliminate the source of the draught, and when it’s hot, you find ways to circulate the cool air.

A + D = Disengaging Duo
You and your mate aren’t overly affectionate and frequently express displeasure with one another. The love you once felt diminish soon after the wedding. You may already have a sense that your marriage is on shaky ground.
Food for thought: Ask yourself: did I think of our problems would go away once we married? What changes would I need to see in my partner in order to be happy? How likely are they to occur? How bad would things have to get before the marriage would no longer be worthwhile?

B + D = Disaffected Lovers
While you and your spouse are still in love, there are clouds on the horizon. Bickering and a loss of affection could give rise to doubts about your future.
Food for thought: You may be at risk of divorce. But the decline doesn’t have to continue. Ask yourself: did we set ourselves up with an overly romantic view of marriage? Have we taken each other for granted? Has our disappointment led to frustration and anger? Will continued bickering erode the love we have left?